This worksheet goes along with the Lesson: The Difference Between Will-Power and Motivation. Answer the questions below to determine what your motivation is
You can come back to this page any time and edit what you have written.
(You can also print this out – the PDF is attached at the bottom of this page.)
Fundamental choices are what define us, our Defining Statements. What do you desire in life? What do you visualize for yourself? This is not just what you think is possible, but what you truly want in your life.
In order to work towards these desires, you need to identify with them and be able to focus on what you are creating. This is how you think of yourself. Give yourself a name. Sexy Susanne, Slim Mary, Successful Sue, Kick Butt Amanda are some that I know. Awesome New You also works.
Here’s an example of a defining statement. If you are trying to quit smoking, and you’re thinking, “I’ll do my best, but it’s not really my responsibility”, then you are not defining yourself as a non-smoker. If your goal is written as “stop smoking”, this will keep you focused on what you are giving up, not what you are gaining. Instead, you need to define yourself as a healthy person and a non-smoker. You need to identify with this New You.
When you write down your Defining Statements, write them as if they have already come to pass, and as something you want to create, not something you want to eliminate. (examples: I am so healthy that even my Dr. doesn’t believe it. I am successful and people respect me.)
In order to more fully identify with the Defining Statements, write down what the results will be of being Awesome New You. Examples:
- I look and feel strong.
- I have the energy I need to be a great mother, wife, friend.
- I am a healthy example for others to follow.
- I feel great and confident in all my endeavors.
- People see me as successful. I feel successful.
Take time every day to visualize these outcomes. Visualization is a very powerful activity and by doing this daily, you will draw yourself closer to your goal.
Now that you know where you want your life to go, you need to break it down to figure out how to get there. The first step is determining what the Foundations are to support each Defining Statement. If being optimally healthy is one of your Defining Statements, the Foundations would be:
- Nutritious intake
- Healthy weight and waist size
- An active lifestyle
- Recuperative sleep
- Well-being, including social activities, limited stress
- A support system and healthy personal environment
Next, create Primary Choices. These are the choices that support the Foundations. Sometimes these are things that you would not necessarily want to do if they were stand-alone activities (e.g. go to the gym, save instead of spend money). But when taken together in the big picture of supporting your Foundations and Defining Statement, they can become fun and exciting.
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